There’s something to be said for your partner during wedding planning. They propose thinking that the stress of the surprise is over or that they can take a breath and relax after planning that perfect proposal. But what usually ends up happening is that they turn into this foundation or rock that helps guide the two during the planning process. When you think of planning an event there’s all the things that need to be done, lists that get made, budgets that are attempted kept to, and a bringing together of friends and family to celebrate an occasion. I love events! I love the celebration! I love the planning! And I love coming up with details that make it special and unique. Weddings though are a bit bigger than this. They involve considering and balancing family and friends, huge amounts of money, and decisions that need to be determined long in advance that you need to be 100% on. This can cause stress on even the best party planners and it’s the partners who (I feel) are often leaned on most and end up helping keep it all together. This was the case with out wedding planning. It was a blast at times and a stress at times but it didn’t matter what was happening, Robin was there with support throughout it all.
I knew I wanted to design and make as much as I could for our wedding. I built and designed a website to help our guests with any and all info regarding our destination wedding. I made our save-the-dates and invitations. And pretty much every added touch at the wedding (like the welcome bags, signage, and programs) I made as well. At times it was stressful and filled with indecisiveness and when I would complain or get frustrated, Robin was right there to offer assurance or help or would tell me that what I was doing was great because it was that added touch that made it “us” – and he’d bring me some wine too.
And as much as he was there to offer support and encouragement, he was also willing to partake in my silly ideas. I decided early on that any wedding planning milestone should be celebrated. So I bought a bunch of mini champagne bottles and whenever something was crossed off we would cheers! Anything from picking our date to mailing our invitations to even getting our first “no” rsvp. And even though he doesn’t like champagne that much, he would smile with me and relish in the moment.
That’s the thing I will remember most from our wedding planning. Though there were things that went wrong, that I would re-do, or that were unnecessary, remembering how he was such a strong support system throughout it all is all that matters. I know that not all couples will have the same situation but I do feel that planning the wedding together may make each person naturally find their role. In our case I was the planner, doer, and at times, stresser and Robin was there to offer an ear to vent to, to give advice and assurance during each decision and to help hold it all together. So cheers to the partners who are the backbone of wedding planning.